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Falling in Love Vs Growing in love

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I was looking at our African Tradition and how they used to prepare for marriage and I realized they embraced more of growing in love rather than falling (Parents used to do the match making for their children, so a man doesn’t know whom his to marry until the introduction day!).Honestly if such a thing was to be practiced am sure they would have endless misunderstandings.

Let’s get back to the falling in love thing; if there is anything sweet on earth, it’s falling in love. So, I used to say. Then one day I meant some one who did not believe in my theory…. Of course I did not buy that, I told him he did not know how it felt like.

However one thing wrong with falling you standup again and start asking so many questions to yourself and mostly you feel like walking away. In our land we have a coning phrase, “If I was to fall again, it would be at your feet!”, and it sound more beautiful and romantic in its original language.

Many are the times we have fallen and by the time we stand up, we are not impressed with where we fell. That is when I borrow the idea of growing in love. They believe more in choices than feelings.

Am not that comfortable with choices… I like the feeling that sweeps off your feet and you find yourself flying on angel’s wings, and you just can not stop smiling, bla bla … It really feels good.

When it comes to choices, I just wonder what happens. I believe every thing is calculated and there are few things that get off the line!!! Do you ever feel the power of your heart or you feel the power of your head / brain instead?

Am not sure what I would want next, to fall or to grow. If you fall it hurts, and that ‘grow’ things seems less exiting! But I would love to grow, even after the fall! Ha ha ha..
That would be the best.