Developing a personal checklist for a soul mate

Developing a personal check list for a soul mate

Developing a personal check list for a soul mate

I have heard of this checklist thing a thousand times, but I’ve always failed to come up with one. So I asked my friends a few questions so that I can come up with my personalized check list.

Don’t get me wrong I did not ask, “What should I put down?”, we just shared soul mates and they shared with me how they came up with check lists, as well as the indicators of those qualities.

Well the check list was finally made, but I was still not comfortable with it; most especially with the priority order of each quality. So I spent more time looking at it over and over… then I remembered my big brother’s comment about marriage.

“The only thing one should consider before getting married is; Can I stand his(her) mistakes and can he(she) stand mine?”, he said, “the rest are added advantages!” Well that was quite complicated for me, “how do I know all his mistakes?” I wondered! Well that was my big brother… you may have a different opinion than that just like my buddy Paul.

Paul says, “The only thing you need to look at is his (her) relationship with God”, “and the rest will follow but without God the rest are so deceptive!”

“It’s written, seek first the kingdom of God and the rest shall follow you…”, “the rest are so complicated and with no foundation in God anything can change” he confirms his statement.

Quite interesting of him, and trust me, I believe he is right. I know you have your own opinion and may be your own check list. I just want you to know I wish you well, and may God light up your path.




Baby do you Mind

Baby do you mind

Baby do you mind

Baby do you mind,
if I asked you a question?
Do you mind to tell me if you’re lonely?
Don’t get me wrong,
I just waana know if you’re as lonely as I am!

Baby do you mind,
Do you mind if asked you another question?
Do you waana dance?
Don’t be shy,
I just waana know if you could dance with me.

Baby do u mind,
Do you mind if I hold you?
Don’t worry,
Am a gentle dancer
Baby may i?

Baby do you mind,
Do you mind to stay with me?
Do you mind if we get to know each other better.
Baby do you mind?

Beneth 20/03/2011


My love will wait for you.

My love will wait for you.

My love will wait for you.

My love will wait for you

My love will wait for you
This I promise you.
Loneliness will come
Hope will fade
Yet my love will wait for you

Time will come,
When I will be tired of waiting
When God’s presence seems so far
Pray for me to be strong
And to hold on God’s promise
And my love will wait for you

Until then,
Let’s continue praying for one another
Until then,
Let’s continue writing to one another
Take care of your self, as I take care of myself
He hasn’t not forgotten about us
We have to wait for his time
We have to wait for our day.

Soon we will hold each others hand,
And another promise will be made.
I know you are as lonely as I am
Yet still waiting.
Just remember,
My love will wait for you.



Fallen into the attraction trap?

Fallen into the attraction trap?

Before you scream on top of your voice can you just give me a minute? Good. Well I call it a trap because it does not seem like it’s going to work for the good and yet you are so into this thing like ‘nala’ tomorrow.

Let me make the picture clear, as they say give you details… as we like it. Imagine this guy, every time you see him you borrow a minute to catch your breath, he runs over to you, gives you a hug and yes, you love it. You feel close to him even when he is miles away and at times it feels like you think a like! Sounds sweet? “Yes it does, but that is all there is…

This guy hardly calls you or even sends you an SMS but you can’t stop thinking about him or date another guy because in your mind you’re dating this ‘Sweet Guy’ much as he has never said anything that should even make you imagine that.

It’s confusing. You feel consumed by fear to lose him as though he was even once yours in the first place. Your heart feels fragile as though anytime it’s about to break but somehow he manages to squash your fears, bring a smile on your face and the urge to be patient and wait for that moment when the says those sweet words.

That is a trap my dear, it has consumed many but I beg you to stop dating imaginary boyfriends no matter how ‘sweet’ they look or sound… they are not worth your time. Such guys like your company but they are not ready to date or to be committed to anyone… and yes in the long run you will break your fragile heart, no matter how long it takes.

Watch out for the traps, and if you’re in one please run out!

By Beneth


Too late now

Too late now

They say better late than never,
May be that is what u believed.
But now,
It’s too late

It’s too late to believe in you,
It’s too late to love you just as I used to,
My heart is now so cold,
And I resent you,

A glance at you
Reminds me of pain than
The beautiful flapping butterflies

I wish I could believe you,
I wish I could turn back
to those beautiful moments.
But it’s just too late now.

By Beneth


I wish I was not his best friend

I wish I was not his best friend

I wish I was not the one
He calls when he is trouble
seeking for help

I wish I was not the one
He visits with his casual shirt,
no perfume, or
before he brushes his teeth

I wish I was not the one
He tells everything about his life

I wish I was not the one
Who has to understand
his weaknesses.

I wish I was not the one
He calls his best friend/buddy/pal

I wish I was the one
He acts perfect with

I wish I was the one
He pulls his best shirt,
fragrance and smile

I wish I was the one
He tells nice thing, takes out,
buys flowers and chocolate

I wish I was not his best friend,
But rather he woman he loves.

By Beneth



A New Song

A New Song

I feel a new song in my heart,
A song of thanks giving
And praises, to only you my lord.

All that I am,
I owe to you,
And all I have
You have provided
Unto me.

Sorry for the lost times,
When I did not appreciate you

Sorry for the times
I have praised myself over you
Thought of;
Am good, smart, powerful
I deserved it,
I have earned it,
And filled myself up with pride.

By Beneth