Category Archives: Friendship

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I wonder

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Your words stir up my heart,
With a longing to hear more and more of you
Now that I’m hooked
I wonder,
Will something greater come out of this?
Will something more grow out of this?
Or my heart will hang on this loose thread?

It cuts into two
I should hold on a little longer?
Should I let go?
Could it be too soon?
Could I be holding onto a shadow?

I remember your word,
Filled with promise and hope
Yet waiting is so hard,
And everything else seems to be on a rush
What should I do?
I wonder

Beneth 21/01/2012
God is not a man, that he should lie, nor a son of man, that he should change his mind.  ……… Numbers 23:19

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Evaluate the man you date and understand the man you married

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Evaluate the man you date and understand the man you married

Evaluate the man you date and understand the man you married

Evaluate the man you date and understand the man you married.

Many of us are found of evaluating the man we married, rather than the man we are dating! And that is so wrong! Well that is my opinion. I believe once you’re dating, that is the time to evaluating if this cute guy actually respects you.

Unfortunately when we’re dating we tend to focus on the gifts they shower us with, the ticking clock, our friends are all married, he is cute, and he is ready to settle down… why the wait? We lament to our selves! We pay no attention to what we’re settling with” So one month after the alter we start evaluating our husbands.

If he doesn’t respect you when you’re dating he won’t change over after the wedding. If that is what you said ‘I-do’ to, for whatever reasons you had, why are you stressed? I don’t mean that you take in all the trash he sends to you… all I’m saying is, evaluate the man you date, and understand the man you married.

You may not see all his bad characters, he can actually hide them away from you… but a bad guy won’t turn into a good guy overnight.

“What if am married to him already?” Am not married so I can’t claim to know it all, but am told ‘prayer works!’ Pray for him, ask God to work through him and do your part as a wife; understand him, support him, encourage him, and don’t try to criticize every little thing he does or raising your voice at him. However you can try to show him the danger in what he is doing.

What more can I say?
Happy Marriage!

Beneth 28/02/2011.

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When a woman goes silent

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When a woman goes silent

I have listened to many men complaining that their spouses talk too much… I’m like, ‘Is that a problem?’ A woman goes silent when her man stops listening so those of you, who don’t like her to talk, don’t listen and she will stop talking… but I would not do that if I were you.

They are few reasons why one would tell you something, 1: in search for help, 2: to let you know, and 3: to express their feelings towards the situation. Every woman would like her man to share with her his joyful moments as well as the sad moments… but unfortunately men are not so receptive to such talks. And so the woman has to keep asking, asking and asking … well the beautiful thing ends up being nagging to both parties.

Her keeping quite doesn’t mean she is does not have what to say, but she does not want to see that other look on your face, or else she knows what you are going to say to her. But this whole thing kills your communication and soon your relationship will be long gone. Asking means she cares about you, and silent means, I don’t want care; fight it by yourself, so you choose which part of her you need.

By Beneth
10/12/2010

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Why does a friend become an enemy?

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Why does a friend become an enemy?

I don’t know about you, but if you are to tell me the truth, 90% of the people you call your enemies were once your friends.

Have you ever wondered how all starts, I would say it starts with us. We trust too much, we idolize them in our lives, what they say or do, we do, we forget we had a life before met these friends in our lives, we feel we own them and since we are friends they should be loyal to us.

That is too much to ask or hope for, and that is our problem.

Let me ask,

If you have a friend who always tells you problems, and every day you have to cry with them… won’t you feel they are weighing you down?

May be not, what if?

If you have a friend who always has something to celebrate, won’t you feel jealous?

May be not, what if?

Have you ever felt you need to compete with your friend, why did you feel that? What drove you to do it?

Anyway the bottom line, our friends are human, and I believe we prefer them as friends than enemies so before they cross over, let’s treat them as humans.

Don’t make them your idols, don’t drive them to the jealous zone, don’t use them as problems-bin, respect them and the things that are dear in their lives; and above all, don’t forget to live your life.

By Beneth

13/10/2010

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Friends don’t know it all.

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Friends don’t know it all.

Have you ever sat down and your friend has a lot to share, going on with this and that… and you start wondering if you are distracted because you seem to understand what the problem is.

 

We all have friends to lean on, and those that lean on us.  And I would say it’s normal to fail to understand the problem you’re friend is going through, Actually I would say,  it’s ok to say “Buddy I have no idea of what you are talking about..” than claim to understand and give wrong or insensitive advice. Being someone’s friend does not give you super power to solve every problem.

 

I don’t mean to be rude, but honestly some of those issues we tell our friends are just beyond them. Well we may need someone to cheer us up but let us not go to the last detail explaining the dots and commas in our lives.

By Beneth

13/10/2010

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All I have loved

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All I have loved

I have loved many
Told a few
In fear of rejection

I have admired many,
Got close to a few
In fear of embarrassment

All that I have loved,
May be I did not tell you,
May be you did not love me back,
May be it did not work work out.
May be I hurt you.
May be acted or lied
Or may be tried so hard to be perfect

I did not plan for pain,
yet I caused it,
I did not plan to hurt you either, yet I did,
I tried to be perfect
I ended up messy and stupid.
I tried to hold on,
Yet it all slipped away
Probed to understand,
Ended up nagging

All that I loved,
I did not love you as I wanted,
May be as you deserved
But I believe,
All I have loved.

By Beneth,
(4 friends I made enemies).
16/08/2010